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"There's no vaccine
for teenage despair"
NYT 05.07.2020

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Play could help
academic "slump"

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NY ruling in S.V. v. A.J.:
"...in times of crisis children need regular contact with both parents more than ever to provide love, comfort, stability and guidance, something that video and virtual connections cannot fully accomplish."

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"Can your marriage
survive the Coronavirus?"
CNN 03.28.2020

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Implementing the parenting plan
in the midst of a pandemic
The Orange County Register, California)

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Frequently Asked Questions
about COVID-19

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Please see Massachusetts 03.24.2020
"Open letter regarding co-parenting during COVID-19 from Chief Justice John D. Casey"
which reads in relevant part:

"Parenting orders are not stayed during this period of time. In fact, it is important that children spend time with both of their parents and that each parent have the opportunity to engage in family activities, where provided for by court order. In cases where a parent must self-quarantine or is otherwise restricted from having contact with others, both parents should cooperate to allow for parenting time by video conference or telephone."

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In the words of a recent Ventura County, California, ruling:

"COVID-19 is not a reason to deny parenting time. 
Unless otherwise ordered by the court, parents are considered fit to care for their children
and to make decisions regarding the day to day aspects of parenting
while the children are in his or her care.
This day to day care includes complying with all the directives
from the Public Health Department and all federal state and local government
directives regarding the current COVID-19 crisis."

The full order (available by clicking the button below) anticipates many details relevant to care,
including place of exchange, supervision, and school closure.

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Dr. Garber has teamed up with Marguerite's Place (Nashua, New Hampshire)
to produce a series of free ten-ish-minute video tips for parents coping with kids during the pandemic.

View these videos here:

Physical distancing,
not social distancing

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Maintaining schedules
when there are none

Maintaining schedules

Getting schoolwork
done in quarantine

Homework in quarantine!

for parents

Managing your own depression
                                    and anxiety

"How Are Parents Supposed to Deal With Joint Custody Right Now?"
(The Atlantic 04.08.2020)

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Excellent resources for parents from
"Zero to Three"

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National Geographic

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How to keep kids
connected with the world
when their world has shrunk

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From the leaders of groups that deal with families in crisis:
Susan Myres, President of American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML)
Dr. Matt Sullivan, President of Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC)
Annette Burns, AAML and Former President of AFCC
Yasmine Mehmet, AAML
Kim Bonuomo, AAML
Nancy Kellman, AAML
Dr. Leslie Drozd, AFCC
Dr. Robin Deutsch, AFCC
Jill Peña, Executive Director of AAML
Peter Salem, Executive Director of AFCC

6525 Grand Teton Plaza, Madison, Wisconsin 53719
Phone 608.664.3750 Fax 608.664.3751 afcc@afccnet.org www.afccnet.org

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Holding Tight/Letting Go

Comply with all CDC and local and state guidelines and model good behavior for your children with intensive hand washing, wiping down surfaces and other objects that are frequently touched, and maintaining social distancing. This also means BE INFORMED. Stay in touch with the most reliable media sources and avoid the rumor mill on social media.
Be honest about the seriousness of the pandemic, but maintain a calm attitude and convey to your children your belief that everything will return to normal in time. Avoid making careless comments in front of the children and exposing them to endless media coverage intended for adults. Don’t leave the news on 24/7, for instance. But, at the same time, encourage your children to ask questions and express their concerns and answer them truthfully at a level that is age-appropriate.

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3. BE COMPLIANT with court orders and custody agreements.
As much as possible, try to avoid reinventing the wheel despite the unusual circumstances. The custody agreement or court order exists to prevent endless haggling over the details of time sharing. In some jurisdictions there are even standing orders mandating that, if schools are closed, custody agreements should remain in force as though school were still in session.
At the same time, it would be foolish to expect that nothing will change when people are being advised not to fly and vacation attractions such as amusement parks, museums and entertainment venues are closing all over the US and the world. In addition, some parents will have to work extra hours to help deal with the crisis and other parents may be out of work or working reduced hours for a time. Plans will inevitably have to change. Encourage closeness with the parent who is not going to see the child through shared books, movies, and games, and communication through FaceTime or Skype.
Provide honest information to your co-parent about any suspected or confirmed exposure to the virus, and try to agree on what steps each of you will take to protect the child from exposure. Certainly both parents should be informed at once if the child is exhibiting any possible symptoms of the virus.
Try to provide makeup time to the parent who missed out, if at all possible. Family law judges expect reasonable accommodations when they can be made and will take seriously concerns raised in later filings about parents who are inflexible in highly unusual circumstances.
There is no doubt that the pandemic will pose an economic hardship and lead to lost earnings for many, many parents, both those who are paying child support and those who are receiving child support. The parent who is paying should try to provide something, even if it can’t be the full amount. The parent who is receiving payments should try to be accommodating under these challenging and temporary circumstances.
Adversity can become an opportunity for parents to come together and focus on what is best for the child. For many children, the strange days of the pandemic will leave vivid memories. It’s important for every child to know and remember that both parents did everything they could to explain what was happening and to keep their child safe.

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